Dear blogging soul Lillie has awarded me an Honest Scrap Award for telling it like it is. In keeping with the rules of the award, I’m to share 10 honest bits from my life with you, as are all recipients. I’ve never been shy about laying everything out, so here goes. Interesting? You be the judge.
1. My biggest pet peeve in the world is unfairness or injustice. I get very heated and very vocal when I feel someone is treating me or someone around me unfairly. I have no idea why it sets me off, but it does.
2. I love being around cars and car repair talk. I love diagnosing. It’s my secret wish to be a mechanic someday. Well, not so secret now, eh?
3. I love to fish. I’ve been fishing, and going to Ontario to fish (the ONLY place to catch respectable fish) since I was six weeks old. Well, the going part. Fishing came when I was old enough to hold the fishing pole. And I catch and release.
4. I will always regret how my divorce affected my children. Always.
5. I hate confrontations. Hate them. I don’t avoid them as they tend to become larger problems, but I hate them. Asserting myself has often led to unpleasant situations, but not as much as avoiding addressing the problems firsthand. Need to work on that.
6. I was fired from a job I used to love but then grew to hate thanks to a change in management. I don’t regret not being there. I sort of regret not approaching the boss more with my concerns, but knowing how he was when I brought up anything, I know it would’ve meant a faster exit for me. Refer to #5.
7. My best dog died 12 years ago, and I still miss him. Worse, he was the catalyst that started my divorce (strange, but the dog’s death just opened my eyes). Even worse, I was the one who accidentally killed him. He walked behind my car as I was pulling out of the garage.
8. I hate the words “bulghur” and “house finch.”
9. During my first marriage, I was invisible, even to myself. I had no idea who I was or what I wanted (besides writing). He didn’t care as he was ego-centered and didn’t see that I had no life beyond wife/mother, nor do I suspect he would’ve cared, figuring (rightly) that it was my problem to fix. And yours truly was shy – can you believe it?
10. This job is the best job I’ve ever had. Bar none.
I won’t tag anyone for this, but if you feel compelled to spill your guts, you may do so here or on your blog. Consider yourself awarded.
What about you?
Very interesting, Lori!
I’m sorry you had to go through the pain in your past, but I’m glad you’ve come through it and “fixed your problem.” You probably wouldn’t be the strong and honest person you are today if you hadn’t experienced the bad along with the good.
All the bad junk helped form you into the strong woman you are today, which will surely translate to your kidlets.
Don’t think I’m gonna spill my guts for that award. LOL
Bless you – Have yourself a wonderful New Year and an excellent 2009 – Cheers!
Love your list – love your honesty. The only shocking part is wanting to be a car mechanic.
I can’t think of anything I haven’t already spilled all over my blog and memoir. Spilling is the only way to go.
BTW, I think we over see the ways our choices “badly” affect our children, and under see the way(s) we’ve shaped them into the amazing humans they are.
Thanks, Carrie. I needed to hear that. 🙂