What's on the iPod: Late March, Death March by Frightened Rabbit
In a few cases, the conversations I was part of made me doubt myself as a writer, and in one instance, I saw clearly the agenda of the speaker. It was to belittle and somehow embarrass me. Whatever. Usually those who are talking down to someone will eventually find themselves being judged twice as harshly as the person they're trying to stunt, so karma will be one hell of a ride, I'm afraid. As long as the check clears first.
Because I was in such a mood, I avoided most conversations that went deeper than "hello." I backed off marketing for the day, stayed away from commenting on blogs, avoided talking about anything on Facebook, and gave my brain permission to stop thinking so much. By the end of the day, the sun had come out both literally and figuratively, and I felt like trying again today.
I want to talk about writing, but I'm still hung over from all of yesterday's junk. So maybe it's better to look at the things I've learned this week:
People don't always have good intentions. Sometimes the flak you get isn't about you at all. Insecurity? Yes, but sometimes it is less about those insecurities and more about trying to screw you over. It's rare that it happens, but there are people in the world who act out jealousies or dislikes. It's okay to let it be their issues, too. Also, it's okay to remove them from your orbit.
Salespeople who hang up on you just did you a favor. He asked for my husband. I said, "No, this is Lori." Click. Huh? Isn't that my job to hang up on him? When a salesperson does this, not only is it likely you don't want what they're selling, it's clear you don't want to deal with someone who would start a business relationship in such a rude way.
Image is everything. When a friend told me my website was outdated, I was surprised. I hadn't considered it, but when I looked, she was right. I changed it immediately, and saw an increase in customer inquiries. Still, some companies and sole proprietors don't even care about the image they are presenting, it seems. If they just put time and actual money into what they showed the world... Seriously. What is an outdated or hokey image saying to potential customers?
Sometimes you'll do all the work and get none of the credit. To my mind, that's often okay, too. Eventually, people see who's doing the work. Even if they don't, so what? If you enjoy it, do it. If not, stop.
A closed mind equals stagnancy. I have plenty of examples of people who get advice and either lead with "I can't" or shoot it down because it means work. To all freelancers who let fear or hard work get in the way -- open yourself to suggestion or try a different profession.
Bandwagon business approaches fail. I've seen someone with a good idea that's working be copied countless times without the same success. Why? Because that one person has a unique approach and personality that combine to create success. Not everyone has the same elements in them, nor will a fantastic idea be implemented in the same way by each person. It would be so much better to expend that energy on a business approach that fits and feels right.
True friends are priceless. I have a handful of friends, both offline and online, who make up the best support system and are just wonderful people. I haven't told them often enough what they mean to me. Today, I will.
What are your lessons for the week?